Bride puts her foot down when her serial-dating sister feels entitled to a plus one: 'I don't want a complete stranger in my wedding'

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Jun 21, 2024 11:00 AM EDT

As a bride, you're forced to make a million decisions every day: What kind of frosting do you want? Which dress should your mother-in-law wear? And should your serial-dating sister be entitled to a plus one? 

At a certain point, these decisions can get overwhelming and if you're a people pleaser like me, those little family dramas make each choice more complicated. However, there are some brides (NOT bridezillas) who can stand up for themselves in a reasonable way and it's those ladies who shine a beacon on the path forward for others struggling to plan their dream wedding while appeasing the rabid wolves at the front gate (their family). 

For one woman, she struggled with the idea of her sister having a plus one to the wedding. After witnessing her sister go through a zillion failed relationships, maintain unattainably high standards, and foster the need to exclusively date rich men, the original poster of this story, the bride in question, decided not to grant her a plus one. For fear of cropping out the stranger in every picture, she put her foot down and found a way to say, 'No'. 

Do you think she was in the right here? Scroll for all the juicy details of this sisterly debacle. 

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    "Anyone my sister would bring would be a fling"
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    AITA for not giving my sister a plus one to my wedding? Hi reddit, I (25F) am a Winter 2024 bride, and am marrying the absolute love of my life.
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    My sister and I have always had a great/interesting relationship. Most sisters would know, one day you start fighting because she wore your clothes, and the next day you're having Dunkin together, typically sisterly things.
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    Well my sister has always been to put it frankly a pick me girl. She has no friends that are women because and she says “she sees them as competition" and she likes to be friends with boys. She will
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    only date rich men, and refuses to settle for less (a little bit to that later). My sister has not had a relationship last longer than 2 months, and she always has a new guy on her shoulder. My mother and
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    Fiancé were recently talking about this before I sent out my invitations. I had mentioned since our venue was on smaller side, we didn't want strangers in our wedding, nor
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    did we want them in our wedding photos. My mom had made a comment about how anyone my sister would bring would be a fling, since she currently was not in a relationship.
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    When we went home that night, I brought it up to my Fiancé (we'll call him Bertram). I told Bertram that I really did not want a complete stranger in my wedding pictures, and
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    certainly not someone my sister would only have been dating a few weeks, maybe a month. Well just this past week Bertram and I sent out our wedding invitations, and
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    they read "We have reserved seat(s) in your name." So for example for my Fiancé's family his reads, "We have reserved 4 seat(s) in your name." When my sister
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    received her invitation, hers read "We have reserved 1 seat(s) in your name". And boy was she upset. She called me and told me that it was not fair that she could not bring a plus one. I
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    mentioned to her that she didn't have the best track record with men, and that Bertram and I really didn't want some random person nobody would talk about in our wedding pictures. She
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    said that I was selfish, and that since our Wedding was towards the end of December (the 29th) she had 6 months to find a boyfriend, and that it would be a serious relationship. Now here I
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    might've gotten mean, but I told her I would seriously doubt if she found anyone, given her track record for the absolutely worse men alive. (As I mentioned before rich men, who think buying gifts will excuse cheating, and lying).
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    She got upset, hung up, and said she will be attending my wedding with a boyfriend of 4 plus months because she will find one. AITA for not giving her a plus one? And would I be for considering to an uninvite her all together?
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    Active-Anteat... • 12h ago Aficionado [13] INFO: I don't understand why you feel your sister's date has to be in your wedding pictures. I mean, can't she bring a plus one and only she appears in family photos?
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    NotCreativeAtAll16 13h ago Commander in Cheeks [206] NTA. For the last time, for everyone in the back, you don't have to invite anyone to your wedding just because someone expects it. Just like people are free to take that invitation and respond to it how they see fit.
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    growsonwalls • 12h ago Enthusiast [8] Gonna go against the grain and say YTA. You come across as very judgy and contemptuous of your sister, and i bet that tone was
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    apparent when you explained to her the rule. You might win the battle but if you value your sister at all you need to find more respectful, empathetic ways of communicating with her.
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    • Internal-Pineappl... 13h ago Partassipant [1] More info is needed. Is absolutely no one allowed to bring a plus one? If that's the case, then no, you're NTA. But if all of your other guests are allowed to bring a plus one and you are excluding her, then yes, ΥΤΑ.
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    PurpleStar1965 • 10h ago Partassipant [2] I'm over here thinking about the poor guy the sister is gonna rope into a "relationship" for the rest of the year, drag to the wedding like a trophy, then dump at the New Year.
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    spicymorenaaa • 11h ago I feel like people tend to forget that plus ones also aren't free it's your wedding at the end of the day
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    Jyqm 13h ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [33] NTA. There is never any obligation to offer single people a +1 to a wedding. (But I certainly hope this is a blanket policy you applied across the board rather than singling out your sister.)
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